Collaborative Divorce
A Dignified Divorce
Deciding whether or not to end a marriage is a difficult decision to make. From what I see, it seems that more people agonize over the decision to end the marriage than they did in deciding whether or not to marry in the first place. This is probably because most people are true romantics. The majority of us believe in “happily ever after,” or at least the idea of it. Well, at least we hope for it. If they let go of the marriage, then they are giving up on their dream.
Unfortunately, life happens and “happily ever after” is not always possible. Dreams are shattered, hearts are broken, etc. Then, as if losing the dream is not enough, you have to endure years of divorce court, the true playground of the devil. Attorneys and judges in family law court witness every day really good people act their very worst.
Now acting like a jerk in public isn’t that bad, really, if all you are doing is embarrassing yourself. The problem becomes when you are acting like a jerk and your children are negatively affected by your actions. That is the problem with family law. It would be so easy, if only the children were spared the pain.
Keeping children in mind, is exactly what a Collaborative Divorce is all about. In a Collaborative Divorce, the children are the focus. Sparing the children from pain, or at least, limiting the pain, is what the process is all about.
The basis for Collaborative Divorce is the idea that divorcing spouses can work together with their Collaborative professional team toward the common objectives of ending a marriage equitably, with dignity, respect and the best interests of the family in mind.
A Collaborative Divorce does not mean that there will be no pain. No one can promise that. But, what it does mean is that the pain will be minimized. It is a viable alternative to families who want to go through the legal process with dignity and without the accompanying destruction of lives and relationships.
Collaborative Divorce continues to grow in the Inland Empire. A new non-profit organization is forming to educate professionals on the collaborative process. The movement is exciting for professionals and their clients alike. The group, named CDPIE (Collaborative Professionals of the Inland Empire), will meet semi-monthly to educate attorneys, accountants and mental health professionals on the process of Collaborative Divorce and will encourage them to become educated in the discipline. Once the group is active and running, they will also begin the process of spreading the word to the public.
So, if divorce is imminent, you may want to try this new process, rather than litigate. In doing so, make certain your attorney is trained in the Collaborative process, otherwise it will not work.
— Pamela Edwards-Swift, Esq
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When my case was passed onto Pam to take over after a previous associate left the company I was nervous. We met for the first time at the court house, heading into court to set trial dates.
We had a break before coming back in and grabbed a bite to eat. I was able to speak with her freely, as if she were a friend. (A very expensive friend haha)
She was easy to talk to and it was clear that she was passionate about her work and that made me feel like more than just a paycheck.
The results of the custody battle were in my favor, thanks to her.Thank you for your compassion Pam.
My husband and I reached out to Pam for custody and child support dispute for my 5 year old step son almost a year ago. These situations are never easy but having a knowledgeable attorney made a world of difference. We worked with Pam and her para-legal Evelyn and we couldn’t be happier with end result. I would highly recommend Pam and her team if you’re looking for someone to look out for your and your child’s best interest.
I am grateful for Pam Swift and her staff! They were supportive and understanding during my time of need. Unfortunately due to my cases particular circumstances, it took years to handle. But in the end, her services blessed us with freedom from one of the most traumatic times of our lives.
OUTSTANDING Attorney. Took care of business, went on the offensive and balanced the scales. Very much appreciate Pamela’s care and understanding of my situation. Could not be happier with the results!
Pamela Edwards-Swift was a life saver when I had to take my ex back to court to gain primary custody of my daughter. Throughout the entire process, Ms. Swift clearly explained the process, set very clear expectations with me regarding each phase of the court proceedings, made solid recommendations to me which helped me decide on the best overall situation for my daughter. Our custody battle took just over one year, and what impressed me most about Ms. Swift is the results we got happened exactly as she said it would! I highly recommend Ms. Swift!
Pam and her team exceeded my expectations. I’ve never had to higher a lawyer before and I met with a few before her. I felt comfortable, reassured and that she had not only mine but my daughters best interest for my case. I highly recommend her. She has years of experience in all types of family law cases.
I have known Pam Swift professionally for the last ten years. She is professional, knowledgeable, cares about ther clients and looks for amicable ways of handling very tough situations. I highly recommend her.
I found Ms Swift to be a top notch attorney who has both experience and integrity. My estate attorney referred me to her because she had worked with her on a number of cases and was impressed with her ethical skills and personable style. I have nothing but praise for the way she and her team, especially her paralegal, Evelyn, handled my divorce. My case was somewhat complex and yet they doggedly worked their way through it always looking out for my best interests with a positive attitude. She and her staff easily have my 5 star vote!
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